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I have realized that I often do not say what it is I do not like about people,
is that good or is that bad??
I mean it allows me to hang out with different people and enjoy what is good about them and then when I get annoyed I just like, stop talking to them for a while and that is that.
But really sometimes I wish you could be able to ask the other person to accomodate for you,
instead of being like, oh that is just the way they are and ignoring it, I want to be like man your cool but I don't like when you instert annoying habbit here because I am the type of person that blah blah blah (as if it really matters what you say about yourself anyway). The point is if this person enjoys your company, which they probably do if they are bothering to talk to you, than they should be able to be considerate of you, no?
Okay so maybe this sounds a little basic to everyone, but I think my natural tendency is to accomodate and rationalize other peoples behavior without really realizing I am doing it.
Not always mind you, I am good at saying things frankly sometimes, I mean in order to make things functional etc. It can be easier if you can learn to accept people the way they actually are and just work with it, in some situations it makes it a lot easier on both parties, oh family or work situations for instance but in terms of friends am I really doomed to being annoyed or alone??
ps I realize that my friends are probably reading this, no worries, just assume I don't mean you ;)
is that good or is that bad??
I mean it allows me to hang out with different people and enjoy what is good about them and then when I get annoyed I just like, stop talking to them for a while and that is that.
But really sometimes I wish you could be able to ask the other person to accomodate for you,
instead of being like, oh that is just the way they are and ignoring it, I want to be like man your cool but I don't like when you instert annoying habbit here because I am the type of person that blah blah blah (as if it really matters what you say about yourself anyway). The point is if this person enjoys your company, which they probably do if they are bothering to talk to you, than they should be able to be considerate of you, no?
Okay so maybe this sounds a little basic to everyone, but I think my natural tendency is to accomodate and rationalize other peoples behavior without really realizing I am doing it.
Not always mind you, I am good at saying things frankly sometimes, I mean in order to make things functional etc. It can be easier if you can learn to accept people the way they actually are and just work with it, in some situations it makes it a lot easier on both parties, oh family or work situations for instance but in terms of friends am I really doomed to being annoyed or alone??
ps I realize that my friends are probably reading this, no worries, just assume I don't mean you ;)
posted by girlyLarki at 6:11 AM
5 Comments:
HAHAHHA i get to comment before the ho!!
Moo
hmm i can only guess girlylarki did not actually mean to post that she was gay
i like the way you articulated that gl. because that's a good way to provide feedback, instead of saying 'you talk to loud' you say 'you talk to loud for me' so you're personalizing and not talking in the general sense. that way you avoid damaging that person's ego or self confidence and at the same time give them a chance to a) be less annoying around you b) a chance to self reflect and maybe fix the flaw
i think that's a good idea fo' sho!
so I don't check this thing so often apperently someone.... keeps pretending to be me and commenting stupid kid!!!
anyway thanks for the feedback masuma
ok ok fine.. i shall spare you.. muahahahaahhaha
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